|English: Cover of the fantasy fiction magazine Avon Fantasy Reader no. 14 (1950) featuring "Temptress of the Tower of Torture and Sin" by Robert E. Howard. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)|
Dreams that arouse us in a sexual way during sleep or influence our thoughts upon awakening to be about sex may not even seem to have sexually related content. Sometimes those titillating dreams may be about objects, people, or situations that are not sexual by nature. For example we may dream about being in a place that seems to have nothing to do with sex, but in the dream or as we awaken we may feel sexually charged. I won't attempt to address these types of dreams in this post as they are probably very specific to the individual dreamer and not necessarily easy to decipher.
Actual sex dreams are typically much easier to understand. Often these are merely wish fulfillment dreams. We may dream about an actual person that we know, a celebrity, or an imaginary person who somehow fulfills certain dream parameters of sexual desire. The person may not necessarily be a person we would be attracted to in waking life, but we can probably come up with another person in our lives with whom we can relate to the dream role. Essentially the wish fulfillment dream is the same as the sexual fantasy we might have in waking life, but at times with unexpected players in the fantasy role.
Other sex dreams may have more to do with power. This may reflect an interest to have power over another person whether it be a specific actual person or a fabrication that is symbolic. Sex can often be equated with power. We may want to dominate others or feel the need to be dominated or pampered. These feelings may be manifested in dreams of sexual activity or something that creates a sexual desire within us.
Some sex dreams or nightmares may cause us to be afraid or sad. The fear of rape, abandonment, or humiliation may be an extension of our concerns in waking life. These thoughts might reflect memories of our own experiences or those we have heard about. If any of these things have been weighing upon us then we might experience dreams or nightmares about them.
The best dreams are the ones that are interesting and exciting--the ones from which we awaken feeling happy, confident, or hopeful. Pleasant sex dreams can do that for us. Even if the dream fantasy sex partner is one that cause you to feel uncomfortable or disgusted thinking about in a sexual way, don't be overly upset. If the dream was a positive experience then there is more than likely an important positive message being delivered in the dream. And the dream may actually have nothing to do with sex. Instead the sexual imagery and feelings may symbolize something unrelated to sex.
When you have a pleasant sex dream you should try to discern what the symbolism is. Try to pinpoint who the players are and why they are in the dream. Attempt to understand what the dream activities, the settings, and the atmosphere mean to you. If you are comfortable with the dream that you have had then the dream message can lift you up and carry you through the day.
Do you remember having any sex dreams? Do you enjoy them or do they make you uncomfortable? What dream symbols would you associate with positive sex dreams? Care to relate any interesting dream experiences of a sexual nature?